When my Oma got dementia (morbid start, I know, but bear with), we had the sad task of sorting through all her belongs. Among the mundane items, there were several beautiful things, like crystal glasses, fine china teacups and gold-rimmed serving dishes. These things had been her’s for decades, but I remember seeing them only on rare occasions, like Christmas lunch. I thought it a shame that these lovely things were consigned to the back of the cupboard for the majority of the year.
When Oma died a few years later (sorry, don’t worry happy stuff coming), my mother inherited many of the lovely teacups and dishes. Laden with memories as well as intrinsic beauty, they were in danger of being left in the cupboard once again. It made me question why we keep beautiful things, taking up space in our homes, but only use them two or three times a year.
Own less with beautiful everyday things
Now in my own home, I’m making a case for buying and using beautiful things on a regular basis. I’m all for having fewer things in general but reducing our belongings doesn’t mean buying plainly utilitarian items. I’m trying to buy things that are fit for purpose, but are also beautiful, both when in use or when in a cupboard. But why do I think this is important?
Beauty is inspiring and refreshing. I love making tea in a sweet teacup because just seeing the drink nicely presented makes me enjoy it more. It’s like how we eat with our eyes first: a meal with a balance of colours and shapes is more appealing. Lovely clothes, attractive hardcover books, a pretty flower pot. All these things make me want to use them and enhance my experience when I do. So much of the world is dry, utilitarian, efficient and trendy. Sometimes I just need to come home and see a well organised bookshelf while I drink tea from fine china while wearing a swishy dress.
Instead of waiting for a few rare occasions, I’m getting more use out of my nice items. I’m reducing how many things I have, because I don’t have a ‘good’ set of dishes and an ‘everyday’ set. I just have one. When you think about the cost per use on your nice items, it’s a bad return when they barely get used! Break out the fancy dishes, set the table with a vase of flowers and throw on some jewellery for a weeknight dinner and see how much your mood goes up.
Beautiful doesn’t mean frail or expensive
That said, maybe you’re a bit nervous about using delicate china each meal. This could apply especially if you have younger children or (like yours truly) can be a bit clumsy. That’s fine, beautiful things don’t have to be expensive or breakable! Buy things you think are beautiful but that you will also use. Having young kids doesn’t mean you have to use ugly things. Just pick your dishes and furniture in more durable materials.
I love blue and white china and dishes. My favourite set is made of Vitrelle which is chip and smash resistant. I love setting the table with it, but I also know it can take the hard knock life. What do you find beautiful? What do you find usable? Find things that do both and enjoy the benefits!
